This came across my mind, not too long ago (to more accurate 22nd March 2012), when I saw a friend of mine crying.
It was at a general meeting for an election for a small society. She had applied for the role "secretary", competing against another individual. Major of the members of the society knew her and often hang out together. The two took turns and make a speech, at the end of each speech members of the society were allowed to ask them questions such as "what will make you a good secretary?".
As said previously major of the members of the society are her friends, stupidly enough they assumed that asking irrelevant question would create a humorous atmosphere (which it did). Once the speech was over, it was time to vote. This friend of mine sat down beside me, I could tell that she was distress.
To avoid a scene I told her to go to washroom to freshen up. Not long later I got worried whether she'll be okay, I got up to look for her. Checked all the washroom, she was no where to be found, as I walked back to the meeting room I heard a slight cry. It was coming from the other door down the hallway, there she was squat down in a corner crying. I didn't expect this to happen in real life, thought this could only happen in movies and TV.
I went up to her, held her tight and told her to go to the washroom as others may see her, that was all I could think to say. I knew telling her to "not to cry" would make her cry more. All of a sudden people was exiting from a meeting, from the room next door all looking and wondering "what up".
Couldn't stand the attention, finally went to the washroom to freshen up.
She let out her feeling "why are they doing this to me, they're suppose to be my friends". With tears still in her eyes she was about to go back to the meeting room. I stopped her and help her to pull herself together as if she went back as she was others would be able to tell that she's been crying.
Back in the meeting room everything was just like normal. Nobody noticed a thing. After the meeting there was a party. I told her to not go, but go home to have some rest but she insisted to go. As she assumed (probably true) that others would badmouth her if she didn't go. Partying and clubbing doesn't really interest me, therefore I went home.
A rush of emotions came to my mind, I thought "Live your life to please yourself not others, always have a smile on your face don't let them get to you, they're not true "friends" if they make you upset. Still young so live strong, move on and find people who you'll be proud to call and stay as lifetime friends" (As you do, I posted this as a status on my facebook account, specifically aimed at her but as I didn't other to know it's to her I hadn't tagged or post this on her wall).
That night she got very drunk and even got kicked out of the club, (A friend of mine who also went to this party informed me) I wasn't surprised to be honest but as a friend I cared about her and rang her the next day to see if she was alright.
She told me that she was on the bus on her way to have dinner. I asked her if she was okay. She replied "don't be silly of course I am", but when she said bye to me I could tell that she was about to burst into tears. I rang her again straight after and there was no answer. There was nothing I could do (well probably could but I personally didn't know what to do in these situations as I had not experience anything like this before).
This is a small fraction of my perception and emotions that I experienced which led to this quote which I feel that people should live up to your own expectations and not others.
"Live your life to please yourself not others, always have a smile on your face don't let them get to you, they're not true "friends" if they make you upset
Still young so live strong, move on and find people who you'll be proud to call and stay as lifetime friends"
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